Two threads moved - attn Cloud :)

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hi Cloud, nothing wrong with raising the topic you did. we just moved it to the non-public area where members can more freely talk about this stuff.

speaking with admin hat on, as this is a self-help/support site for multiples at all stages of healing, it's particularly important here to be respectful of others which includes not pressuring them about their trauma background and where they are in their process. any of us can volunteer info as we consider appropriate (though details go on IH), but nobody here has a right to assume or pressure anyone else.

you haven't done anything bad. you're learning about this new place and its members and it can be awkward in the beginning. we can't speak for jp, or whether anyone in their system found your questions difficult. ultimately, we are all responsible for our own systems and you are welcome here.

as admins we moderate to help maintain this place so that members have somewhere to come and expect mutual acceptance and respect. some are openly religious, some not; some post regularly, some never. as members, we all post trigger warnings (the icons above) to warn about posts containing material that may be difficult for some readers, e.g. CSA, SRA, religion. these are explained in the guidance and feel free to ask questions when you're not sure.

you should be granted access to IH within a few days/posts.