(05-18-2014, 08:39 PM)MakersDozn Wrote: Doing better, thanks. Charity had some stressful dreams and woke up in a panic, but Mary helped her calm down. We went to Mickey D's for breakfast. Nothing like unhealthy food to help a person relax. 
We did a boatload of laundry today. We've been known to buy more clothes in order to avoid going to the laundromat. It's not the washing; it's the schlepping that turns us off. So we end up waiting for weeks and then lugging two humongous, overstuffed mesh bags, plus all the ancillary materials, and making the schlep even schleppier, albeit less frequent.
After that, while listening to the Yankees split a single-admission doubleheader with the Pirates, we hung shirts to dry and put a lot of the other laundry away. The law of averages dictates that most doubleheaders end up being split with each team winning a game, and this one fit the mold. Now we've got the Sunday night game on ESPN.
Hoping all is well with you.
Laura and others
Greetings Laura and others,
Nothing like unhealthy food to help a person relax.
Pints of ice cream later, I heartily agree. Consider myself in ice cream rehab now, LOL. Enough.
I like doing laundry, but, yeah, not lugging it. No matter where I go around here my stuff comes out reeking of laundry product scents. Hence, I wash and hang-dry all clothes that don't go to the cleaners.
Much of my stuff has been so processed (except jeans or most sweatshirts -- washer, but no dryer) for years. Now everything but linens goes into the sink. Let's not go into the stink detox I put them thru when I get home. A partial solution at best. Found a large and pleasant laundromat, with TV.
As you know, I'm kind of so-so with sports in terms of serious interest. Was a Yankee fan as a kid. From the little I've seen, I like Tanaka. Also, Montreal Canadiens were a love of my past. I've been watching some of the Rangers-Canadiens interactions, much of which disintegrated into a disorganized mess. I like elegant hockey, a fabulous passing game, with surprises. Liked the Black Hawks last year. I hope California Chrome wins at Belmont. I like that pony.
Thank you for wishing me well. I can't say good stuff is coming my way. A 25-year medical relationship went down the tubes last month, but I saw this guy falling apart months before that. It seems that when I didn't agree to "worship" a colleague of his, someone who is apparently much feared (awe=fear in this case), then he will make sure I can't get expert medical help anywhere. I found that out in NY, etc. I am in trouble.
Didn't do anything except refuse to be a lab rat, refuse to kowtow to a tyranny of guidelines. Refuse to play games. Lots of lying going on, except for me. I didn't hurt anyone, but it doesn't make any difference. I am unbelievably easy to set up because I was trusting and didn't realize how rotten people can be, how they can turn if pressured enough. I keep to myself, but must get meds and have the right supervision. I know what I want to do, but it would take millions.
I was thinking about Charity. I don't have it in me right now to review negative introject info. The Ts don't necessarily agree. My own experience with the m*m, which I now know began in infancy, indicates that if the introject started with very early ab*se, it's probably as good as hardwired via the Limbic System of the brain. I made that last part up. I don't know if there is professional agreement anywhere, and I don't care. I know it for me.
Anyhow, my way of dealing is to be myself, to look for aspects of my nature to which this introject could attach and how to detach by simply being me, not by saying I won't be like her. That kind of reasoning, while understandable, might not give the expected results.
One needs to guard the sp. of self as sacred, and in that guarding, it is possible to learn how you, in fact, are not defined by a negative introject.
It gets cloudier when one has been made to feel inadequate, thus not become all she could be, not even know how. I have recently come to understand that as much as I ever will. I've successfully been my own advocate, and also failed in other instances because something was missing in me at the time, and/or I was opposed in a way I didn't know how to respond to. I'm not trying to define your experience. Just showing as much as I can of mine. Doesn't have to be the same in order to help.
I think that the times in this country, dealings among all of mankind, are such that it's bad for the human condition. It's a complex reality, including planetary instability, I'm spending much of my time unraveling in my own way. So, Charity, don't give up. Best I can do right now.
Wishing you all well,
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