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Rules/agreement inside - TigerLilly - 09-18-2014, 09:35 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - orek - 09-18-2014, 11:08 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - nats - 09-19-2014, 09:16 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - orek - 09-20-2014, 12:38 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - MakersDozn - 09-20-2014, 11:03 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - TigerLilly - 10-01-2014, 09:37 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - The People - 11-15-2014, 11:03 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - FreyasSpirit - 08-13-2015, 12:11 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - nats - 08-13-2015, 07:32 AM
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RE: Rules/agreement inside
We don't have any explicit rules, but in general before taking any big actions which another may object to, we ask "is everyone ok with this?"  Often, there is a no and it takes a couple iterations to talk through it.  Sometimes, the objector almost immediately thinks about it again and no longer has a problem with it.  Other times, it comes from someone who is much more established and has more specific objections.  In these cases, we weigh the benefit for one against the harm it could cause to another.  

One example is that Lucia would love to shave our head, but doing so would make Lilith immensely dysphoric.  As a result, we will not shave our head unless Lililth is ok with it because it would be a small benefit for Lucia and significantly bad for Lililth.  We just checked this again and Lililth seemed much less dysphoric about the idea of a shaved head so these preferences can change over time.  

Another example with a more specific example is that we were considering giving our 6 year old, luna a capital letter (root access to the system), but Lililth objected, stating that capital letters were reserved for those who can function as an adult.
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Messages In This Thread
Rules/agreement inside - TigerLilly - 09-18-2014, 09:35 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - orek - 09-18-2014, 11:08 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - nats - 09-19-2014, 09:16 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - orek - 09-20-2014, 12:38 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - MakersDozn - 09-20-2014, 11:03 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - TigerLilly - 10-01-2014, 09:37 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - The People - 11-15-2014, 11:03 PM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - FreyasSpirit - 08-13-2015, 12:11 AM
RE: Rules/agreement inside - nats - 08-13-2015, 07:32 AM

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