Rules/agreement inside

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we are highly-functioning by most definitions, but we are not a democracy. we never got agreement in that sort of nice sitdown-and-talk-it-through-then-everything-will-work way. one of our strongest fronters has her own way of doing things and interacting that caused fear and dangerous problems for others of us. she saw no reason to change b/c she had a lot of fun and was quite able to ignore the consequences. the rest of us not so much. a few years ago the kids took her and put her to sleep somewhere. we don't know how or where. it solved the problem, but took away the one person who was good with people and enjoyed socialising. i don't know if she'll ever come back. so, democratic discussion is better and is what we'd recommend, but in our system safety trumps all.