Rules/agreement inside

[TigerLilly]

We have an ongoing issue of everyone inside wanting to be in control and wanting to do what they think is right. The result is that insiders do things that cause anxiety and chaos for the rest of us, like run up our credit card bill buying clothing they want, going out and partying, skipping therapy appointments, travelling to other states, etc. We have had so many people tell us that there needs to be an agreement on rules inside, but it is almost impossible to get agreement on anything. Everyone thinks they are right and it's their way or the highway. I was wondering if anyone here has had success forming and maintaining some agreement inside that helps to limit some of the outside chaos? I know everyone inside thinks they are doing what is right and is trying to help, but it's not exactly working!
Ciao!
TigerLilly