Empowered by Anger?

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i don't think an easy fix exists to any of this, but i'm glad the 12 steps are helping you. another thing that helps me some with feelings i don't like is to name them and accept them in my head (e.g. "I'm feeling ashamed and afraid and hurt and vulnerable right now"). it seems to help ease the intensity some because usually when i feel something uncomfortable i try to avoid it and that just increases the discomfort. walking into the feelings and accepting the fact (or just stating the fact) that i am having them, while also being aware of my actual surroundings ("i am feeling angry right now, and i am also sitting in this room with yellow walls and i can see a tree and a bird out the window") helps me relax about it some.