Loss

[Kathleen]

(05-26-2012, 08:46 AM)ELL Wrote: I know it's not healthy but I'm afraid to let go and feel the emotion because I don't know how far it'll take us, or if we'll come back from it.

I recognize that fear. I can't possibly let myself feel that because I will never stop feeling it. My partner had that fear about her anger: that if she let herself recognize it and feel it, it would burn her up. Scary.

I think feelings are important indicators, but they are not the Truth ™. They are indicators for us. In this case, an indicator of how much you cared for your data and how much you will miss him. And it's very strong. Grief is one of the hardest feelings because it doesn't really ever "get fixed". He can't come back. So you will feel it and it will be very strong, and it will come back, like waves. The feelings will be stronger sometimes, and smaller other times.

In the Jewish culture, people sit shiva for an entire week to mourn. It is recognizing that this kind of loss is just that big.

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you have some kind of support system to accompany you through it.

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