question about T

[angel with wings]

I have a T that only wants to talk. he refuses to answer any email that I might send or text. this is hard for my non-verbals, cause they cant communicate with him. I thought that it was unprofessional to ask this of him. but reading a lot of your different posts, I see that many of you do this. so its more of a matter of choice. its not that he cant, but he wont.
I did express to him that my non-verbals needed an outlet. they needed a way to communicate. also that I write more than I would ever say out loud. it didn't matter to him. he feels that if you are a non-verbal, then get verbal. I cant do that.
he seems harsh at times, and it makes it hard to build trust. my system fears him instead of trusts him. this cant be helping me.
also, I asked him once, on the subject of trust, why I should trust him. he replied that I should never just trust him (or anyone for that matter). that I should always question motives so I don't fall into any traps. never trust blindly. so I do that, I will question motives, including his. when I do this, he gets mad and tells me he wont play my silly games. he told me to do it! im so frustrated I cant stand it. I have stopped going to him. problem is, he is a friend of the family, which means I still see him otherwise. when I do, I find I cant speak to him or even make eye contact with him. he wont apologize to me, and if I wish to speak to him, then I have to except this and if anything, apologize to him.
what are your thoughts?????