New T age issue

[orek]

(09-07-2014, 11:37 PM)Tangled Web Wrote: Hi Orek.
We have seen someone younger than us before 2 T's to be exact and I must admit it was hard. One of them didn't work out but we stuck with other one for awhile. For us the age thing was in problem in the sense of us measuring her experience through her age. If she was younger then how could she possibly know or even understand. (Those were our thoughts) It was hard to respect her opinions and trust them. But she did prove to us that she knew what she was talking about at the time. It will be small steps.........For us I guess it is easier for us to respect older people. Guess that has to do with our training from childhood. Hope you can give her a chance.
TW

Yes, I guess it's hard to trust and even see her authority when she's younger--even though she's not young, per se, and is also middle-aged. Her experience and credentials are impressive, and when she consulted with my former T on the phone, my former T felt reassured that she knew her stuff and was committed to my healing. No red ("or even pink") flags went up.

I guess I will also find it hard to get out of the way and let the kids out. It was hard enough with my former T, and I'll feel even sillier with someone younger than I. Oh well. I will give her a chance. Her style is very different from our old doc, and that might help us not compare and just open up to a different kind of therapy experience and relationship. I just hope she really can hold the therapy space safely and securely, and that we can trust her to do so, the way our former T was able to do. Dang, we miss her!!!

Thanks for your reply.