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(08-22-2014, 04:29 PM)Tangled Web Wrote: I decided to try to help the person with our body name. Her and I usually work pretty well together and she was someone who I actually have access to. So I was sharing space with her. That space started to blend and it felt like I stepped into her.[...]I am curious if anyone else has ever experienced something like this?
Emma

Yes, that has happened to us (Laura and Allegra, specifically). We are together about 95 percent of the time and work as a team, especially doing outside stuff and pretending to be a singleton. We compare ourselves to a pair of TV news anchors: "And now, over to you."

But we remember a situation where we inadvertently came too close together, and for a moment both of us lost all sense of separateness. It was frightening for both of us, because it was not what we wanted and certainly not something that we were prepared for. So we each pulled back abruptly and felt safer again.

The two of us have a good deal in common, but we are also very different and very distinct, and we always know where each of the two of us ends and the other begins. OTOH, we don't have that clarity with respect to a number of the others inside. This is especially evident when Laura's "radar" picks up on someone else's strong feelings. At times it's difficult for her to know if the feelings are hers or someone else's.

In situations like this, the best thing for us is to step back and reason through the situation. Would I really say/think/do XYZ? Or is that someone else, like [name]? We're trying to get to the point where we can do it almost automatically, but it takes practice.

Hope this helps.

Laura, Allegra, and others (mostly Allegra)