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Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-01-2014, 01:30 AM
RE: Questions? - nats - 07-01-2014, 03:36 PM
RE: Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-01-2014, 06:24 PM
RE: Questions? - nats - 07-03-2014, 01:16 PM
RE: Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-03-2014, 05:42 PM
RE: Questions? - nats - 07-04-2014, 03:24 AM
RE: Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-04-2014, 03:59 PM
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Question  Questions?
I have been struggling with therapy lately. I have some questions and would really appreciate people's input.

Do you think it is necessary to feel some kind of connection with your T in order to do this work?
How do you get that connection?

How do people get there T to understand them? Or feel understood?

I feel like I am doing this wrong. Maybe I am expecting something that maybe I shouldn't. I don't feel that connection like I want to feel when I talk to my T and I don't understand why. I have tried to let her in but when I leave I just don't feel like she actually gets it. I don't think she understands. I don't feel understood and I don't know why. I know I am a very deep thinker and I lose her somewhere along the way, I think.........

I want to feel that connection. I want to feel like she cares and just gets me.........she says she cares and I know she wants to help us, but I don't FEEL it. I don't know to get there to that place anymore where I can feel those things. She has asked me what I need from her and we have tried to work past this but I don't know the answers to that. All I know is how I want to feel and how I don't feel. I don't know how to get there or what would help me feel like I had that connection. I have absolutely no idea at all.

So I am stuck. I don't know how to do this. I have tried to look at this from a more professional level and try to do T without having that connection..........like she has a job to do and it is her job to help me, that is what I am paying her for but that seems so cold. I don't know how to do it that way either. My mind goes blank and I have nothing to say. And I end up thinking well maybe I am just not ready to do this work. But when will I be ready if not now? I just don't see a way out of this.
So any input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening
TW
"You may not remember what someone says or does, but you will never forget how they made you feel" Mac Anderson.
07-01-2014, 01:30 AM
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Messages In This Thread
Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-01-2014, 01:30 AM
RE: Questions? - nats - 07-01-2014, 03:36 PM
RE: Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-01-2014, 06:24 PM
RE: Questions? - nats - 07-03-2014, 01:16 PM
RE: Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-03-2014, 05:42 PM
RE: Questions? - nats - 07-04-2014, 03:24 AM
RE: Questions? - Tangled Web - 07-04-2014, 03:59 PM

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