Controlling who comes out?

[Downtherabbithole]

Thanks the people. I think that helps. Does it work alot or is it a bit hit and miss. Depending on how parts feel or if feel listened to enough. ? By the way, how do people find out about what age a part is? I don't know what age any of mine are just that they are 'childlike' or rebellious/ harmful, or by emotions or tasks. Not all has names much to T disappointment, but I don't know the ages of even those that have names. N then there's still lil miss denial who recons this is all in the mind and not real at all. I get that thinking of self as a one person rather than a many person would protect system in a way while denying its existance. But does inhibit getting help alot of the time. Is there a way to map system so can figure out who doesn't react healthily in certain situations. ?