Controlling who comes out?

[The People]

Yung Katherine is 14. We knew of her existence but never got her name until after we moved here. She feels like she has to fix things and falls apart when she cannot do so. It makes things tough for us.

A while back we knew she was close to the front and it wasn't the time. We told her to stay inside. Kindly but firmly. She actually listened. We were surprised. We can talk more internally than we ever could although still not a lot. But perhaps if you write those who will make things worse by coming out, and let them have their say it would help. Maybe they will write back and you will have a conversation. Good luck.