Controlling who comes out?

[nats]

well, nobody really likes to feel controlled do they? i don't. probably your others don't either. we've all had bad experiences of others trying to control us. it's no wonder many people resist or appear uncooperative.

rather than trying to think how to control someone or make them do what you want, maybe you could ask your people about why they don't want to cooperate as these are likely valid reasons. there are many ways to work together (i.e. collaboration rather than dominance and control).

just thinking about the church thing - seems like a bad day to go. maybe try another day when there isn't a function?