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[Tangled Web]

I understand that her reasons are different from what the mothers reasons were. Looking at it from her point of view and without the experiences we have had. But it will still hurt us. Whether the hurt is from trying to heal from past experiences or hurt from the vindictive ways of the mother. It still ends up with being hurt one way or another. So does it matter if the intentions are good or bad if the feeling hurt is the same? That is where we are completely stuck..........and then we think what is the point of saying of anything to her........her words won't change that fact, so what do we do? Does that make sense?