Therapy/connection

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So how are you doing? Are you planning on getting a new T after she retires? Are you talking to her about your feelings regarding her leaving? what is new with you? What have you been up to? I am sorry for all the questions.....and I hope you don't take them as prying....... and we hope you don't feel you have to answer any of them........We just really missed you. It is SO good to see you.
Tangled
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Thanks, Tangled. I appreciate the warm "welcome back."

We've been up and down, making progress over-all these past couple/few years (give or take) with connecting to insiders and to the reality of what happened to us, seeing all the ways it affects us in our day-to-day lives, etc. But her impending retirement has really been a big blow. We're researching names for another T, but we're not really sure we have it in us to try yet again, start all over with the trust-building and all that laying-a-foundation stuff necessary to do further trauma/insider work. And that's assuming we even find someone good, available, affordable that's a good fit, etc.

So yeah, we are pretty disheartened, feeling ourselves head into a downward spin. Not sure we can make use of the remaining time to even keep what we've built with her, let alone do more processing. It's hard to talk to her about it, though we've tried. (in fact, Davis took the whole 75 minutes last session, something she's never done before, and it was good.) But Ts always mean more to their clients than vice versa, even though they care deeply. That's the nature of the relationship and transference, etc. So how to explain it all? How do I get insiders to keep working when they know she's leaving?

This has been our dilemma for the past year, and now we're down to mere months. Thanks for asking, and thanks for listening.