Difficulty Letting Go of Feelings, Memories

[nats]

it's a tough one. we also depend too much on external validation, probably for similar reasons. why should you let painful feelings go if they're valid? well, mainly b/c, while they may always remain valid they may not always remain central to you or your identity.

sometimes we let go of old shoes, even though we still like them, b/c they're worn out, they don't fit properly, or we've outgrown the style. it doesn't make the shoes wrong or invalid, they just don't fit anymore with what we want going forward. we need to let them go to make space for what we want now. similarly for feelings. anger and grief are right and valid, but if we only give them space we have less space for equally valid feelings such as joy and gratitude.

realise, you know all this already. there really is no magic answer though.