Feeling Shame

[The People]

Increased self awareness can suck for sure but we have found it to be the beginnings of making changes in some area of us. I am hoping that this happens for you. That by knowing how perfectionistic you are you can find small way - along with T - to let some things slide. We struggle with this too. I was confused when a T pointed it out because I am a slob. However, she pointed out that perfection is usually all or nothing. It is also anxiety driven; the cornerstone of switching etc with DID. Well one of them anyway. I also find my perfectionsim is worse when I am already feeling badly about myself.

My friend's son has a condition that i swear has many of the same building blocks as DID. He has Asperger's. Over the years she taught him to tell himjself "it could be worse such and such could have happened." it helps him a lot, even as an adult. He drove on a holiday on his own for the first time. His car was broken into and he lost a lot of stuff. He got himself home by constantly saying "it could have been worse they could have stolen my car". Something like that anyway. No it is not a quick fix. But it is one suggestion.

The up side of perfectionism is that people know they can depend on you to do things right. There is an up side to everything. Even DID. How many North Americans get to live in a Caslte with a dragon that flies by?