Grieving a Lost Childhood

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(10-11-2012, 11:33 AM)MakersDozn Wrote: I can't nurture myself if I was never nurtured. There's a giant abyss within me, a giant hole where all the received nurturing, the bonding, the feeling of safety and security and inner strength ought to be. How can we give ourselves something that we never received?

we used to go round and round and round on this with our t when we were in colorado.

the hard reality is that it is never possible to go back and get what we didn't get the first time. and to a degree, that hole will always be there...

we wanted our t to give us the nurture we missed out on - our t maintained she couldnt do it (nurture us) the way we wanted, and we had to learn to recognize nurture from her in the form that she was able to give - and then take that experience to help us self-nurture.

in some ways we feel our move to texas cut the process short - and we were not able to get a good connection with the t we had here to try to continue the process.

we want to tell you it's possible to learn to do what wasn't done for you, but fear what we've written doesn't communicate that.

are you able to imagine what nurture would have looked like? what you would like to have experienced?