Grieving a Lost Childhood

[Tangled Web]

Hi MDs.
Well I can only tell you what I have been told when asked the very same question. I don't know if it is true or if it works because I haven't been able to get there yet, but this is what I have been told....
You grieve- you cry and get angry and grieve the loss, and in doing that comes an acceptance.
Then you stop asking the question why and put the responsibilty back on the person or people who didn't do what they were supposed to. And you will realize it had nothing to do with you but it all lies on them.
Then you start to nuture yourself and give yourselves the love and protection you didnt get when you were little by doing nice things for yourselves.
And teaach them, the lils it is ok to feel the love you have to give and you will protect them.

That is what I have been told..........maybe it will work, I really don't know. I don't grieve very well, actually I don't feel things very well and that is where I usually get stuck.
Hope this was helpful, sitting with you and listening.
Tangled