Friendships and trust

[orek]

Your response makes total sense to me. I'm so afraid of losing control of information about us that I hate for my work and personal lives to even bump up against each other. For instance, I rave about my chiropractor, but then if someone at work then wants a reference I freak out (inside), because his office is in the same outer office as our T. Even though we warn him and the receptionist not to say anything about our seeing the T, we don't trust it, don't like having this vital info in someone else's hands and having it out of our control. I trust their intentions, but worry about something accidentally said, etc. Luckily the only couple people I referred (because there was no graceful way to refuse to give up my chiro's info) never ended up showing up. *phew*

So having someone working alongside you that knows about you all will be disconcerting and feel unsafe, for sure, even if it's not unsafe. I hope you find over time that your concern lessens and that your friend takes your privacy needs seriously and honors the secrets you have entrusted to her.

Let us know how it goes!