Friendships and trust

[Tangled Web]

(09-20-2012, 11:13 PM)Elizabethn Wrote: Oh that makes a LOT of sense to me. I struggle frequently, okay VERY frequently, with trying to figure out what is "my" stuff getting in the way, what's "normal," etc. So I get bothered about some things that apparently don't bother other people much. I'm dealing with that in a job situation right now, in fact. I'm supervising some people who are doing things that, to me, are so childish as to be unthinkable, but I don't know what's the appropriate way to go about addressing them.

In my mind, they should KNOW BETTER than to do this stupid crap, so I wonder if I'd be totally out of line to say something as OBVIOUS as, "The refreshments provided by our boss are for consumption during the work shift, NOT for you to stuff in your pockets and take home." (Yeah, it really is that ridiculous, and no, these are not "impaired" people.) I'm like WTF should I have to SAY that stuff? And on the other hand, if I were running the show I'd fire their behinds for theft.

BUT I have no clue what's normal. So I obsess and worry about it. It seems so dumb, but it's that wondering about what's "normal" that trips me up a lot.

EN, I can totally understand what you are saying! I have no idea what "normal" is either and it trips me up ALL the time! I obess and worry about it too. I used to think that everything I learned from my parents wasn't normal and used that to judge things but I can't do that anymore........the lines that have been drawn in sand are just too confusing. Things I thought that were normal are no longer normal and things I thought weren't normal, I guess are more normal than I thought.........which has totally confused me!
So I hear ya!
Thanks for responding
TW