Friendships and trust

[Tangled Web]

(09-15-2012, 11:12 AM)Elizabethn Wrote: I'd be freaked out, too. Hopefully she will understand the concept of strict boundaries. How is your relationship outside of work? Does she keep confidences well? Does she respect whatever boundaries you set in other circumstances?

Hi EN. Thanks for responding. Well when I see her outside of work it is just the two of us usually. I don't interact with her friends anymore. I found it difficult because I didn't know what they knew.....or what she had told them. I know she did tell her one good friend about me at one time a very long time ago which we did talk about and I was upset with her for doing that. She makes things out to be jokes so it is very hard to be serious or to get a serious conversation with her at times. (not jokes in a bad way, she actually helps make things a little lighter and not so serious all the time).
I have never really interacted with her inside my world, I guess I keep things pretty separate.
I did talk to my boss about her orientation and she told me I would not be able to orientate her because of our relationship.
My boss also told me at that time that the reason they hired her was because of my reference. I guess I hold pretty high standings there with management, which I was happy to learn but I also feel more pressure now. So many what ifs..........and I just wish it didn't bother me so much. Or be so conflicted. This is more my issues I think that are coming through than hers. And I can't see or judge the boundary thing because of my issues.
Not sure if that makes sense or not but I don't know any other way to explain it.
Thanks for listening.
Tangled