when to give up on T..?

[nats]

- Do you trust this T? We trust her to be reliable and do what she agrees to. we don't trust her to understand what feels important to us.

- Does s/he understand DID? Sometimes she seems to sort of.

- Does s/he try to use alernatives to talking to help you get below the surface? we used to email and found that much better, but it probably wasn't fair to expect her to read it all and we never talked about it and she seemed to take it as a positive step when we stopped. so we didn't do it anymore.

- Do you correspond with her between sessions? we used to but there doesn't seem any reason to. we dont really feel like there is anything to talk about that is important enough to discuss outside sessions that we could explain in a way she would understand. she's got very good boundaries about session times etc, so we'd rather not.

I could go on but the bottom line is, what keeps you there? what keeps us there is a combination of 'this is as good as it gets/we can afford' and optimism that someday by magic all this venting about daily life b/c we know she'll understand what we're talking about and its easy, will accomplish something meaningfully therapeutic. sounds dumb when its broken down like this, but hope springs eternal..

what is plan B if this doesn't work (only you can decide that). to give up, indefinitely. we just really don't want to embark on a new T search..