when to give up on T..?

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thanks TW and mosaic.

it's exactly as you described - we're coasting and we know it - we've been w/ this T about 4yrs and happy to talk with her about routine stuff but just don't feel like she can help with whatever would be deeper (not sure what that would be nor whether its her or us, just feel like we've done all we can do at this point with this T).

we've stuck wth her this long b/c we could afford her and felt like we 'should be in T' but that reasoning doesn't seem good enough to stay at something that we're just not ready to do more than coast in. Realised that to keep everything going professionally etc takes a huge amount of energy that we then don't have to invest in challenging selves in T. I guess just looking for any excuse to take an indefinite break. Just feels like something we do as a habit but aren't really seeing any changes/improvements - obviously, since we're not putting effort in either. maybe we're just not any good at the T process.

we read here about people who really miss their Ts when they're gone. we like our T but we're happy to have a break when she's gone. We just aren't attached to her or trusting - which is one of our issues that seems to have gotten worse rather than better with the passage of time...

feels like rambling instead of answering your questions. we don't want to give up on ourselves but we've not managed to deal with any of the major issues we started T for - not a single one. mainly we've just come to accept that this is the way things are. most of us are not bad people, but doesn't seem like the T process is helping us become better...