Having Children

[Dreamscapes Collectives]

(08-09-2012, 03:54 AM)My_horse_is_my_therapist Wrote: Hi everyone,

My husband and I have been wondering lately what will happen when we start having kids, hopefully in a year or two.
I hope this topic doesn't trigger or upset anyone, but we are quite lost on the subject.
Do you find babies help ground you? Or make it harder to hold on?
Does DID pass down (I don't see how, but again I'm not sure.), because that's a scary thought.

Sara

We know dissociation seems inherited. When our son was three and four we had to work extensively with him to start dealing with his feelings without "going away". We thought we had broken him because it was in reaction to us going into the psych H for the first time.

We didn't all consciously know we were multi when we got pregnant. Didn't learn until our youngest was 18 months old.

Not gonna said it's been a cakewalk, but I think we did as well as any other parent, singleton or multi, who consider their children the most important thing in the world. One of the things we swore was that we would never do what our parents did. That we managed to do.

All three of them seem to be fairly well-adjusted kids, despite the periods of crazy we went through while they were little. We broke the chain. Proud of all three of them.

I think everyone else said, and I agree that having a kid is a personal choice. Even if you think you're perfectly ready, you learn that there are things you have to deal with that no one has told you. We used to keep a running list of the things our kids did that no one warned me about.

Any way you decide, make sure that you and your spouse have support as well as all the other things you have to consider. Raising kids is hard work, but we felt it was worth it.

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