lost time in therapy

[orek]

Hi bean and Tangled Web--This is a good topic. We do something similar to Tangled Web. We leave at least ten minutes at the end of sessions for the upfronters to return and process anything that was discussed by insiders. We get a chance to give reactions, get feedback about what was shared if we weren't fully present or aware, and ask questions of our T if we want her thoughts or are worried about her reactions. Doing this also helps give us time to ground and prepare to leave the office. There are many times when it's very hard to fully get back in the body and/or mind--we can feel very drugged and dazed after insiders push all the way forward to be in T, esp. deeper circle ones.

I admit I would feel a bit hinky about insiders telling our T something and asking her not to tell us. That smacks to us of the whole secrecy and weird alliances of the original tra*ma, but maybe that's just us. Whatever you work out, it's important to communicate both with your T and, if possible, with each other. It's important for you all to know if your T recognizes the switches, etc., and important to your T that she get the feedback and information to help her help you all better. I think it could only help if you bring up your questions and concerns and discuss it all with her.

Good luck, bean! Let us know how it goes, if you want.--orek