need a haircut

[mosaic]

this is a long meandering about hair...

my hair has always been a problem for me

first when i was little i got teased unmercifully because not only was it curly (straight was "in") it was RED and curly.

now i get lots of compliments etc which is nice, but i cannot find a style/cut that works for me

curly hair tends to be very fine in texture, and so even though it curls, it hangs... or, if it's the wrong cut it bushes out...

i found product to tame the frizz (a major issue, especially in humid climate)... but i just can't find a style/cut... i like to be able to pull it back in a ponytail to get it off my neck... but i don't like how it lays flat on my head otherwise... but if i get it cut so it doesn't lay flat, it's hard to do the ponytail thing (not to mention i don't like wearing my hair the same every day - and a short cut kind of demands that)

sigh... i have yet to find a style where i can have the best of both...

curly hair isn't as wonderful as all these women say it is