Alter has a boyfriend

[Conundrum]

Hello everyone,

Conundrum has a major problem. One of Conundrum's alters has a boyfriend. This boyfriend does not know that we have DID. He ran into Conundrum at the post office and tried to kiss her. Of course, this caused a major problem. Now we do not know what to do if this happens again. Has anyone else had this kind of problem? Do you have any ideas on what we can do if this happens again? We simply told him that Conundrum's response was part of a trauma reaction. He has accepted this for the moment but what happens when he sees Conundrum again and thinks it is the alter he has been dating? We are very confused and very afraid! What can we do????