After watching Ellen

[Cammy]

Society is afraid of things they don't understand. Add to that bad Hollywood stereotypes of people with multiple personalities, and yes, we get a bad reaction when we disclose ourselves. I tell virtually no one that I am a multiple unless they need to know, and even then ....

I am also saddened when so-called Christians treat gays badly, but again, this not true for ALL Christians or all churches. My uncle is an Anglican priest and when his eldest daughter came out he welcomed her with open arms. His opinion is that gay or straight is a big non-issue that people like to get in a knot over, and he wasn't about to perpetuate any kind of prejudice or evil in his family by rejecting his own daughter. His viewpoint is not isolated, but embraced by the Anglican Church in general... they value human relationships above all else. If those relationships involve the same sex, oh well. I know others, however, that have a terrible outlook on gays and use the Bible as the basis of their prejudices. It's sad, really.

When I met my husband, it never dawned on me to mention my DID to him. I just didn't think that it was something important enough to talk about and it never crossed my mind to say anything. When I finally remembered that I had DID and told him, it was a non-issue, as he had already gotten to know and love me. Out in society, I prefer people to get to just know me. When they get to know me well enough and the topic comes up, only then do I consider disclosure. For me it works better this way because they already know I'm not some evil serial killer, so the the news of my multiplicity is not a big deal and they didn't get the opportunity to stereotype me. I would never disclose to someone I just met - I have no moral or legal obligation to do so. Besides, as you already pointed out, it can frighten people since they don't understand. Heck, I'm not sure I understand it after all this time.

It grieves me that your family has turned their back on you. They are in a state of denial and here you are living proof of the truth. It is not you they are rejecting so much as that they don't want to face the reality of the past. I am so sorry that you have to carry this burden.