I Don't Feel In Control

[nats]

hi Shadows, how much communication do you have internally at this stage? we've never come across a multiple system that effectively organised themselves and their lives by fighting - because then the strongest people win rather than the wisest or most practical. similarly, 'going with it' can also mean the strongest have the advantage.

democratic internal communication is probably the ideal, though we've never managed that ourselves. however, communication and practical rules people can agree to live within are probably the key. it starts by making a lot of effort to listen internally and finding out what motivates people. if you're fronting for a multiple system, whether or not you consider yourself the host, it's probably most similar to being the manager in a company - you can't just force and fight or the company will never succeed, but you can discuss rules and boundaries that people can agree to.