New member needs help

[Phoenix1221]

Hi all, My spouse has DID and cptsd; been in therapy for years but newly diagnosed. Married almost 20 years. 2beautiful boys. Things have been up and down since our oldest was born 13 years ago (got very, very bad after his birth) but there were good times with concentrated very bad times. Lately, things have gotten way worse. Angry alters surfacing. Husband working late hours. Often distant at home. Spouse not speaking to me and boys for over week now (over a minor complaint of mine which has unleashed a floodgate) and says he's "stuck". Silent and angry better than lashing out. I am so lonely. Have been for months. Angry teenage alter seems to be in lead for past week and there is no way to reason with him. I haven't had good boundaries all these years; I think that is what has let us get this far. I'm burned out. I love my husband dearly...but I worry about my mental health and that of my boys. I sometimes think he would be happier without us--that maybe we would all be better apart. I don't really want that, but it hurts so much. Any advice? Suggestions? Thoughts? Thank you