Can't forgive T

[The People]

I am very sorry that such a thoughtless statement was made. While she has apologized has she explained what she really meant by the statement? Surely she would have seen the mistakes made by the SW. And I don't understand why you and your sister had different SWs. T is wrong. Things should have been better. SW

You made it anyway. Yes you have scars and a lot to work through. However, you recognize that things were not your fault and this is huge. I hope this extra trip on your path, the one caused by T can be rectified so you can move forward again. Ts are human. They make mistakes. Some small, some unforgivable. Most are somewhere in between. I don't know how old you were when the SW went into your home. I am in my 50s and I don't even think there were social workers in our town. Their guidelines were much more limiting. The social worker was a fool if he thought someone could bully your Dad into pulling up his fatherly socks.

But I really think you need T to explain what she meant prior to moving any further. What did she mean? Why did she feel that she couldn't have done any better? Ask those questions, even if you have to put them in a letter. That is some pretty heavy secondary wounding.