what is safety?

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as a multiple, we periodically struggle with this question and don't have a satisfactory answer. is safety avoiding everything that frightens or triggers you and restricting your behaviour till you 'feel safe'? is it ignoring those triggers and intentionally putting yourself at risk 'because you're strong'? is it something in between and if so what does it look like?

obviously there is a big difference between feeling safe and being safe, but how important is that difference. given the news in Paris, Beirut and other places we can all be excused for feeling a bit less safe than usual even though the reality for most of us is that our families were a bigger risk to us than the average int'l criminal/terrorist. how do these conflicting perceptions and realities help us think about safety and make good choices?