HELD HOSTAGE

[Cammy]

We've just been through a similar episode where one of my teens kept taking over in a very raging out of control manner, and it became harder and harder to switch back to my host personality. My poor husband was in tears trying to get me back one night, so the next day I called my T who is very experienced with DID. She suggested immediately that the teen was behaving this way because she was having major unresolved issues, and suggested that I give her her own journal to write in and tell everything that was going on with her. It worked. Not only did we all understand what was happening with her, and were able to empathize with her viewpoint, but it caused a major breakthrough. She has been cooperative and living harmoniously within the system since. I'm not saying this will work for others, but it is what worked for me in this instance. Since that occasion my T has invited her to write letters to her anytime she feels like it. It seems that being recognized and validated made all the difference for this alter. I've been enjoying a period of peace ever since giving Fagan her own journal and acknowledging her pain and anger.