Connecting in the Singleton World

[MakersDozn]

We've considered that approach--focusing on commonalities rather than differences. In theory it should work. But it doesn't work for us, for a couple of reasons.

First, we've never liked or wanted superficial relationships. We detest small talk. Unfortunately, because most relationships begin with small talk, our preference for deeper, more meaningful interaction eliminates the vast majority of opportunities to establish relationships. It's a catch-22.

Secondly, we have a strong need to be authentic. If we can't be who we are with people, we don't want a relationship with them. For one thing, it's a waste of our time and energy to put so much effort into something that will ultimately be unsatisfying for us.

And a large part of our identity is tied in with being multiple. We are many. We will always be many. It may not be this way for all multiples, or even most multiples, but it's who we are. All we want to do is be ourselves and live our life in a way that makes us happy. But in a world where we don't relate to most people and don't feel that they relate to us, it's hard to feel safe enough expressing or pursuing our needs.

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