Your Biggest Surprise?

[Tangled Web]

Our biggest surprise of going through this is figuring out that we can't change the past. For some reason we had it in our mind that if we were able to talk about what happened to us that somehow it would change things for us. The past would somehow change and disappear. This has not been the case. That was very surprising to us-we thought that is why we were going to therapy and what the result was would be for some reason.............that is still sinking in for us that we cannot change the past or erase what had happened after being able to talk about it. It actually has the opposite effect for us. After talking about it makes things much more real and clear and even harder to deny. There have been many surprises but this is the biggest thus far.