Speed of Processing

[Tangled Web]

Being cautious is a very good thing FreyasSpirit. When we actually plan to look at our past we try really hard to make sure we don't open up too many things at the same time. It can be a delicate balancing act. We find giving yourself permission to step away from it for a period of time to regroup is often helpful instead of pushing forward. One of the things we learned awhile ago is even though I might be ready to see or hear what has happened that doesn't mean the one who holds the memory is so having good communication and trust is important with the other people inside. Other memories can trigger other things and in our world things can snowball rather quickly. I find keeping a journal of things that might come up that needs to be looked at but not at the current time other things are happening and it gets written down to go back and look at it when things are more stable. We used to try to rush through things for the sake of progress but try really hard to not do that anymore. We spend so much time trying to put everything back together and become stable again that the memory or work we have done gets lost in the rebuilding.
Nice to meet you btw. Glad you came to MM.
TW