DID diagnosis criteria

[nats]

"it's not being many that's a disorder; the disorder comes from the trauma that *caused* us to be many."

yes, that is exactly it. all this stupid focus through the years on 'integrating alters', in our mind rather misses the point. it's not that we have to or should be expected to become singleton any more than a Black person needs to be White or a gay person needs to be straight.

what we are isn't the problem and never was. working through what caused us to be this way will help us heal from it but healing doesn't automatically require eliminating others...