On Denial (in answer to nats)

[Tangled Web]

I would like to comment on this…………

In cognitive therapy they say that you can overcome most situation with the power of though basically, well i think even artifically maintaning a positive outlook on situation by default in case you can't be sure is a little bit the goal of this, and it's clear it's very easy to manipulate one's emotional state depending on what he believe about elements involved in a situation, and if those belief can be changed toward more positive look on a situation in itself i don't see why one's shouldn't do it or try not to deny possibily of things being a way or another if there is no reason for it, it might be more important in a way to be able to maintain positive state of mind about something than being right about it :p
We were convinced as a child that this was how people lived and ALL families were like this. Positives were drilled into or head repeatedly to the point of this is what we believed.
You say--- i don't see why one's shouldn't do it or try not to deny possibily of things being a way or another if there is no reason for it,---There is always a reason for denial imo-the truth is often hurtful but healing needs to take place by acceptance and accepting things the way they really were instead of the way you were made to believe they were. There is a difference.
it might be more important in a way to be able to maintain positive state of mind about something than being right about it-I disagree with this statement. I believe trying to maintain a positive frame of mind is important with some things and you always need to have some form hope but some things are just not positive and for us the sooner as we see that and accept it the more we will be able to move on and let those things go after dealing with them. A person I loved very much told me once—my childhood was a candy coated hell—if I remained positive in my thinking all I would have seen was the sweet tasty candy so to speak that always covered the hell beneath it. I believe you need to look at the whole picture with all its layers.