Learned a lesson :) I hope

[Unity]

Quote:Then I got mad again and wrote a letter of complaint. Because something went wrong even before I got to a person. After I sent it I crawled into bed with the cat. Mad mad. But I went back to yesterday, to the realization that just because things go wrong it isn’t always the other person’s fault. Sometimes is it because I make the mistake or because nobody makes a mistake. Because I switched. Some people really are stupid but sometimes it is just me assuming the world is out to get me.

In my view, anyway either it's in your head or not doesn't matter, if someone make you feel uncomfortable for some reason, he should not be doing it period. Now it's not always possible/pratical to communicate on these things with anyone, but in the ideal it's still not normal of other people if they don't respect you, or make you feel bad intentionally or not, and i generally try to make sure that people know when things they do disturb me, or then it mean the person doesn't have good intention toward you. In ideal world people are supposed to be caring about the emotional reaction of other to their action, otherwise it mean they lack empathy or are sociopath , but unfortunately there are plenty of people like this =)

It's always useful to also evaluate how your mind can distort things, or automatically make assumption about certains signs or other things, but if certain things or behavior disturb you, another person should avoid doing them, and shouldn't have to justify if it's in your head or not.

But well things doesn't always works that way he he =)