critical voice

[orek]

Good to see you again, canucklady. How scary, what she's telling you! I think the People are onto something with that. It sounds reasonable that fear is motivating the critic, so I wonder what's behind the critic's fear? Fear of being hurt and/or homeless, of course, but why now? Maybe there has been an increase in intimacy in therapy, and that's scary to the critic--or the opposite, a perceived slight or inevitable misunderstanding that the critic is reading as pending abandonment? Or maybe you all have made a certain positive step forward in your healing, which is making the critic afraid of things changing, or of not being needed, or... fill in the blank with what might fit your situation? Behind most of the inner "bullies" or critical voices, there often is just a scared child trying desperately not to be hurt again. Maybe that's the case with your critic, and, if so, maybe s/he will respond to some reassurances by adults in the system that therapy is good, and you all aren't helpless, trapped, or powerless in the relationship? I'm just spit-balling here because I don't know your particulars, of course, but I hope you can reach out to the critic and learn her motivation so maybe you can work with her/him to find another, more productive way to protect the system.