therapy....

[The People]

I have not read other answers but my thought is this: You have all of these horrible feelings. Like me. As kids we normalized the dark times or blocked them out in order to survive. For years our family was normal and it was us that had something wrong within. But all of a sudden we have all of this anger as we process (that is evening out actually). So what we needed was to recognize WHY we were angry. Instead of minimizing we needed to say "yes it was that bad."

When we first started to remember and had trouble comprehending the badness our T told us to go some place public and watch the kids who were our age at the time of various memories. It was amazing! They were so little! And defenseless. But when I remembered I would see myself as bigger and stronger. Sometimes from an adult perspective. Try looking at what it was through the eyes of a child. Imagine a 6 year old hearing that day in and day out. And you were standing there as an adult. How would you react? What would you d for little you if you could go back? Or some other kid that was being abused in front of you.