therapy....

[nats]

hi Emma, i think it makes sense. you weren't raised to be bothered by certain things that really bother most people. your T is probably right that you will eventually connect with this, but until then maybe you can adopt a pragmatic approach to help you deal with these kinds of situations. for example, perhaps you could try identifying certain behaviours/words that seem to bother other people so that when you see/hear this you can pause and think before responding in your usual way (e.g. 'how would X respond to this? would s/he be upset? why/why not?). it's part of a general process of re-educating ourselves to at least notice what bothers other people even if it never really bothers us. there may be other things that really bother you that don't seem to bother other people.