therapy....

[Tangled Web]

I think I understand what you are saying nats but there is a missing piece.
For example one day I was at work and talking with a psycho- geriatric specialist regarding one of residents sexualized behaviour. I normalized it. I didn't realize what I was doing but it didn't bother me and thought to be completely honest--that the staff needed to have thicker skin and not be so bothered by it. It is the same thing when people become verbally abusive and staff will say I don't deserve to be spoken that way........ I can't stop normalizing things because it doesn't bother me. The look I got from the doctor was shocking to me so I immediately stopped talking.
There is a disconnect there somewhere and I can't figure it out.
One day I was talking with a co-worker and she was having problems with her mother in law regarding something she said and some how the conversation turned and I told her what my mother had texted my son and the look of the shock and the words that came out of her mouth surprised me. I was like well that is just who she is..........
So if I can't stop "normalizing it how am I supposed to figure out how we want to live now?
Do you understand? It feels like I am missing something-a piece of something.
I know people should be treated with dignity and respect and I do know what those words mean......maybe I just can't tell when that changes to being abusive.....I don't know.....
Emma