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therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-24-2015, 04:52 PM
RE: therapy.... - nats - 02-26-2015, 09:58 AM
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RE: therapy.... - nats - 02-27-2015, 10:25 AM
RE: therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-27-2015, 03:55 PM
RE: therapy.... - The People - 02-28-2015, 02:00 AM
RE: therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-28-2015, 03:04 AM
RE: therapy.... - orek - 02-28-2015, 12:10 PM
RE: therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-28-2015, 10:05 PM
RE: therapy.... - orek - 03-04-2015, 01:23 AM
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I have been having this problem lately..........
I just got home from seeing T. I asked her this question--how do I connect my thoughts now with the past's thoughts?


Here is the thing......I can say with ALL certainty now that if my parents were caught doing the things that were done to us is this day and age they would probably most definitely go to jail. I know this to be true.
So then how come when I think about the past or go back to that "place and time" everything just becomes "normal" and it isn't wrong and that was just the way it was-it was just normal.
I cannot connect the knowledge I have now when I am back there. It almost feels like I am trying to smash a square peg into a round hole and it can't be done.
My T asked me--why is it so important to see things as horrible as they were? And I answered her well if I can't see them as that then what is the point of healing if everything was just normal? She seemed to gain an understanding of where I was coming from. BUT I still didn't get an answer on how to connect the two things. She said eventually it will happen. That is not helpful.
So I was wondering if anyone knew how to connect things?
I don't have the spoiler option so this is a warning that the next part might be triggering to some people.
Here is an example--
My father threatened my life almost daily. He would tell us over and over again that he brought me into this world and would have no problem taking me out of it. He meant it and we knew that. So some of the things he used to do I am able to verbalize now. BUT I don't see them as any big deal as I have been told numerous times that it was horrible or I get the shocked look on my T's face. It was just normal and how can I see that it was wrong or horrible what he did when it was just a normal part of our every day life?
Does that make sense? I don't know how to make it feel like it horrible or that it wasn't normal or connect anything to it and this is what I keep running into with the countless other things in our past that were just "normal" and I know now all of those things were anything but normal. But it still just feels normal.
Emma
"You may not remember what someone says or does, but you will never forget how they made you feel" Mac Anderson.
02-24-2015, 04:52 PM
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therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-24-2015, 04:52 PM
RE: therapy.... - nats - 02-26-2015, 09:58 AM
RE: therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-26-2015, 03:36 PM
RE: therapy.... - nats - 02-27-2015, 10:25 AM
RE: therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-27-2015, 03:55 PM
RE: therapy.... - The People - 02-28-2015, 02:00 AM
RE: therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-28-2015, 03:04 AM
RE: therapy.... - orek - 02-28-2015, 12:10 PM
RE: therapy.... - Tangled Web - 02-28-2015, 10:05 PM
RE: therapy.... - orek - 03-04-2015, 01:23 AM

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