Feeling Alone - A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

[MakersDozn]

We feel alone and isolated. And we don't want to burden anybody with how down we feel, how sad and angry and insecure and needy. Our T says that the ones at the heart of these feelings have to choose to work through them, have to choose to believe that they can achieve something better. These insiders say that they would rather give up, but yet at the same time, they want to prolong the pain because:

(1) they feel like they deserve it;
(2) they can't hurt the people who caused it, so they want to take it out on themselves instead;
(3) they don't believe anything better is possible;
(4) they're afraid of the unknown (that is, something better happening); and
(5) perpetuating the pain hurts more than ending it, so it's a more effective form of self-punishment.

We do not self-injure. But we're experts at prolonging our own misery. We really need empathy and support.

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