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This is hard. Our T that just retired didn't spell out everything your T is spelling out, and she wouldn't take on the role of parent overtly, but she ended up doing exactly a lot of that for us. The therapy relationship does take on an ASPECT of reparenting, in that it is a reparative relationship where your needs are the focus (and not the therapist's) and the relationship is one-sided in that regard, much as a parent/child relationship is (when healthy). Also, by experiencing the unconditional acceptance and warmth and validation at a deep level that you didn't receive as a child, you learn to internalize that eventually and "turn it" on yourself. So in that sense, a good T IS teaching you what you didn't learn from your parents. And that's good and healing and all that jazz.

Having said all that, this only works if the T hold the therapy relationship in perspective and within proper therapeutic boundaries. I don't understand why your T is burdening you with all this information. If she understands the therapy process, she should just DO it, not try to explain it to you. Also, her calling you if she's worried? That sets off all sorts of bells for us. I had a counselor who "got" all the right ideas around therapy, but who was needy and couldn't keep the safe boundaries that therapists need to hold for their clients. Your T sounds overly needy to me, but I could be wrong.

From having all sorts of experiences, good and bad, I'd say listen to own deep inner voice. There's a difference between fear and disappointment, and a deep sense that "something is wrong." Listen and be your own advocate. You are the expert on you, not your T.

I'm so sorry you're going through this confusion. Keep us posted, will you?

Hugs, if you want them, because I know this sucks royally. --orek
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Question - Tangled Web - 10-03-2014, 02:18 AM
RE: Question - mosaic - 10-03-2014, 12:21 PM
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RE: Question - mosaic - 10-04-2014, 09:44 AM
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