Question

[Tangled Web]

I am concerned of the boundaries issues-we don't ever want to cross any boundaries.

This is something we have been looking for but never have admit it-the surrogate parent-and it was mentioned recently, so we decided to explore that.
Our T says that she will teach us the things our parents didn't-the way things are supposed to be and help unteach the things we learned. She will try to give us what we need and it is ok to rely on her and depend on her until we get to the point where we can do it for ourselves-she will teach us what healthy nurturing by demonstrating and will continue to do that until we can do that for ourselves also. So that is kinda like the reparenting think you mention-I think?

We saw our T today and discussed this with her and I don't know where we stand with this yet.
She said something interesting to us though-she is waiting for us to go to the next stage of therapy with her-we are still in the first stage of building the relationship and trust and she understands why and is understanding it takes us a lot of time and isn't something that is easily done for us and not pushing us in any way. The questioned she asked was if there was anything she could do to help us that she hasn't already done and the answer is no-I just don't know how to get to the next stage. And I am not a big fan of just jumping in and going on faith..............Is that the only way this can happen? I don't know........
I guess I have a lot of things to sort out.
TW